Creating good relationships with another person requires taking a step back from your own values and judgments and making an effort to understand the person without prejudice. Having a good relationship with someone has the power to make you happier and more fulfilled.
1. Be yourself in the relationship,
Relationships are not about having another person complete you, but be a genuine person. Share your desires and your opinions so you will be more serene and bring much more to the relationship. For that it is a priority to know your core values - the things that are most important to you.
2. See the other for what he or she really is.
This happens when you see the other person as a symbol of your idea of them. It often happens then to realize that most often you do not really know that person. From the beginning take the time to discover who they really are and how they change and evolve. Feel comfortable asking questions about the values of others; Many people like the opportunities to open up a little more. However, do not distort their responses and be particularly attentive to people who are still working on their values. It’s not everyone who feels comfortable about their values, but most people appreciate compassion.
3. Be willing to learn from each other.
The key is to have an open mind and learn from experiences and know each other, that way you can discover a multitude of aspects of the other person. It is natural, but not realistic, to believe that one can always do things in one’s own way. In a healthy relationship, each one must be able to transfer part of his need for control to the benefit of the other from time to time. A healthy relationship involves compromise, collaboration and negotiation, qualities that are manifested in work, but are too often abandoned in the context of personal life.
4. Be comfortable in solitude.
The key to happiness is to learn, above all, to live alone. Free to bear its own destiny. To do what we want, to share it with whom we want.
You are the only one who truly knows you. The only one to believe enough in you and to be able to do something for you. Nobody knows for you.
If you are sure that you can live without the other, strength is in you. You do not fear separation from the other.
Knowing that, you can live alone will also allow you to know how to take on yourself.
5. Grow together.
Expecting someone staying the same person is both unrealistic and unfair. Do you want to be remembered as the person you were 20 years ago, even if you’ve grown up and changed since then? In fact, it is necessary not only to leave room for growth, but also to nourish this idea, to help the person to become more and more the person she desires to be, and to help her develop her strengths. Bringing out the best in others is one of the best experiences of a relationship, be it a family member, a spouse, colleague, friend, or anyone else!
6. Seek to understand the other
Easy in concept, difficult in application. Conversations quickly turn to arguments when we are invested to hear our partner admit that we were right or when we intend to change his opinion. Choose to approach a conversation as an opportunity to understand the point of view of your interlocutor in relation to the expectation of acceptance. From this point of view, we have an interesting dialogue and avoid a lingering breath or frustration.
Base on these tips I think it will be easier for you to choose 1 to 3 resolutions to follow this month to help have better relationships .
As an example here is my 3 resolutions for the month of February :
1- Be more attentive to the people around me.
2- Having some alone time at least twice a week.
3- Express my gratitude to the one I love .
If you would like to share your resolutions, please feel free to do so in the comments below !
Here is a list of books that are awesome to read, they will help you with the focus of this month. You can probably find these books at your public library, if not, they are on amazon.
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I hope you will start this challenge and if you would like to share your resolutions for this month , please feel free to do so in the comments below !